Have you ever dated yourself? Have you taken the time to treat yourself to a meal or a fun time out??? It is a very important question we all should ask yourselves and we should find these answers. Self care and self love means something different to everyone. To me self care means taking care of yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. It means putting yourself first and taking time to yourself when needed. Self love to me is loving yourself, falling in love with yourself and knowing how to love yourself before you expect others to love you.
Solo dates are very important. When you meet a person you are interested in knowing romantically you go on dates, so why would you not date yourself? Taking time for yourself is very important, it allows you to reflect, relax, and be present. When was the last time you did all three alone? Being alone does not and is not a bad thing, but how many of us practice this? If you have expectations of how someone should treat you, woo you and love you; why should you not have them for yourself? I strongly believe that you cannot expect others to treat you a certain way of hold you to high standards if you are practicing these things yourself.
So now you are understanding how important it is to go on solo date, you are probably wondering, where should I go?? Here are few suggestions and recommendations from me personally:
- Movies with snacks
- Fancy Sit Down Dinner
- Museum/ Art Gallery
- Picnic by the lake or at the park
- Staycation in a nice hotel/ B&B
- Drinks and Dessert
- Manicure/ Pedicure
- Vision Board Party
My first intentional solo date was to see the movie, Straight Outta Compton. It came from a necessity of wanting to see the movie and not having anyone to go with me, but it came so much more. After waiting weeks to see if anyone would go see this movie with me, I decided to go on my own and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. I choose a date, got dressed up fancy and went on my way (Side note: no waiting around for anyone else but yourself). I arrived early enough to get what ever seat I wanted (Side note: you will not argue with anyone over where to sit) and then went and ordered a ton of snacks (Side note: can eat what ever you want without argument or judgment) and sat down to watch the movie. It was one of the best dates I have ever gone on, I was able to sit and enjoy the movie without conversation and focus on the movie. It was such an amazing experience and I have continued doing this since then and have added other dates such as dinner, dessert & drinks as well as manicure/pedicures.
In my opinion, solo dates, self care and self love should call be part of your lifestyle. You should love yourself, be in love with yourself and hold yourself to a high standard. So how do you plan a solo date? Here are the steps
- Set a date and time
- Decide on the activity
- Choose a place
- Dress your best (in your own opinion)
- Go out and have the time of your life
I have given your ideas, the steps of how to plan a solo date and my opinion. It is up to you to plan your solo date, fall in love with yourself and enjoy the one and only life you have to live.
Live your live authentically and fabulously independent!!!!!!